Just because you orgasm every time you ejaculate, doesn’t necessarily mean you have to ejaculate every time you have an orgasm. In fact, that is the secret to having multiple orgasms. Sexologist, Ava Cadell told GQ:
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The orgasm is the part of the sexual experience that happens between two and seven seconds before ejaculation. It combines an increase in full-body sensitivity, quickening of breath, and a flood of sensations through the scrotum and penis.
This indicates that you can actually achieve the big O without releasing any semen. Experts call this phenomenon non-ejaculatory multiple orgasms (NEMO).
Believe it or not, but this method of climaxing has been around for quite some time. According to sex educator, Kenneth Play, countries like India, China, and Tibet have been practicing this tradition for years. He told Men's Health:
These traditions use this practice to retain energy and alertness and direct it towards the goals of their tradition. Avoiding the refractory period and staying aroused and in the game, whether sexually, emotionally, or physically, is definitely a huge benefit.
Before we get to how you can get these orgasms, you need to know that non-ejaculatory orgasms will feel different. They are going to be less intense and overpowering. However, some men have admitted that they prefer having several small orgasms to a big one.
How do you do it?
When it comes to keeping things under control down under, kegel exercises are unbeatable. To stop yourself from ejaculating, you’ve got to strengthen your pubococcygeus muscle. This is the muscle that goes from your pubic bone to your tailbone, and you can exercise it by doing 10 minutes of kegels every day. It’ll help you hold back ejaculation after an orgasm, which means you’ll skip the refractory period that normally takes place upon release.
To perform kegel exercises, you have to hold or squeeze your pelvic floor muscles for around four to five full seconds. Then relax the muscles and repeat ten to twenty times in one go. You can do this for 10 minutes straight while sitting down, or do twenty kegel exercises in a row four times a day.
Remember, mastering the NEMO technique takes a lot practice and daily exercise. Be patient, grab some lube, and prep your hands for some serious training.