A method which is radically opposed to the frantic race for an orgasm, Karezza allows partners to prolong the pleasure of the sexual act while entering into harmony more easily. It was first mentioned in 1931 in the book The Karezza Method by JW Lloyd. This method allows lovers to explore all areas of their bodies using simple gestures.
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What does Karezza mean?
Karezza comes from the word 'carezza,' which means 'caress' in Italian. By favouring caresses and hugs and preventing each other from climaxing, partners can attune their pleasure together and strengthen their confidence. This practice stimulates the production of oxytocin, the hormone of love and attachment, while orgasm increases the production of dopamine, a neurotransmitter linked to pleasure.
Listening to your partner and communicating your desires
According to therapist Rachel Wright, Karezza 'is generally compared to tantrism' as she explained to the site Women's Health. She says the practice 'makes sex games more romantic.' For the therapist, it is necessary to 'have confidence in the person' with whom one practices the Karezza, to 'let go completely.'
'The two of you decide why you want to try it and most importantly, what each of you wants,' says Rachel Wright. It is quite possible to practice Karezza for hours, but for sex therapist Eric Garrison, it is better to test it 'for five minutes' the first time.
The Karezza is therefore a way of approaching sexual congress with more gentleness. This technique is especially good at improving communication between two lovers, whether practiced occasionally or regularly.
