The G-spot is often touted as the miracle ‘button’ to a woman’s pleasure, but it’s relatively uncommon for women to orgasm from penetrative sex alone. Several factors contribute to a woman’s satisfaction in bed, from communication and foreplay to clitoral stimulation and erogenous zones. That being said, being able to find and stimulate the G-spot is a skill that wouldn’t go unnoticed.
Does the G-spot exist?
The G-spot was initially discovered back in the 1940s by German researcher Ernst Gräfenberg, hence the name. But, since then, there has been some speculation as to whether the G-spot exists in the first place. One study from 2012 suggested that there isn’t much evidence confirming the existence of the female G-spot. But, the study also acknowledged that anecdotal evidence and reports from ‘reliable sources’ claimed there was a particular spot in the vagina that, when stimulated, helped women reach climax.
Research on female pleasure and anatomy seems to have come a long way, as in 2018, it was speculated that the G-spot was less of a mysterious pleasure zone than it was an extension of the clitoris.
That’s right, in case you didn’t already know, the clitoris - the organ specifically designed for female sexual pleasure - isn’t just a tiny bulb at the peak of the labia (if you didn’t know where the clitoris was, now you do), it’s actually much larger and extends up to five inches inside the body.
How to locate the G-spot
Despite the multiple studies, many women still don’t believe they have a G-spot. In 2010 British researchers asked 1,800 women if they thought they had one, and only 56% said yes. But don’t let that put you off. While some women prefer outercourse, it’s possible that many just haven’t found their G-spot yet either, and going on that expedition together could lead to a lot of fun.
The first step to finding a woman’s G-spot is to ensure sure you’re both ready and warmed up.
Make sure your fingernails are clipped and your hands are clean, then get started with some foreplay to help your partner relax and prepare for sex. The G-spot is made up of tissue that swells when a woman is aroused, so making sure your partner is turned on and ready to go will make finding it much easier. And, even if your partner is wet, a little lube goes a long way.
Then, with your partner lying on their back and your hand facing upwards, gently move your fingers in a ‘come-hither’ motion. You’ll generally be able to find the G-spot about 2 inches deep inside the vagina along the vaginal ceiling, but if you’re having trouble locating it, get your partner to bend their knees towards their chest to give you better access. Emily Morse, host of the podcast Sex with Emily, revealed to Men’s Health:
You’ll know you found it because it will feel like a bean-shaped bump and maybe more textured than the surrounding tissue.
How to stimulate the G-spot
Now you’ve found the G-spot, you might be wondering what to do with it. Try softly and rhythmically massaging the G-spot with the pad of your finger. If your partner isn’t sure how they enjoy G-spot stimulation, try using different amounts of pressure and speed until you find what gets them going.
Once you’ve found the perfect sweet spot, then you can try taking things up a notch. The G-spot often responds to pressure more than friction, so try using a pushing motion to stimulate the areas. Even better, use your free hand to place pressure on your partner’s pelvis right above the public hair to stimulate the G-spot even more.
G-spot stimulation isn’t limited to using your hands; once you’ve figured out where you’re going, you can try stimulating the G-spot through penetration. Positions like doggy-style, spooning and reverse cowgirl provide the perfect angles for G-spot stimulation.